Peer support is psychological strength training
Join Iain Abernethy for a special six-week peer support training designed specifically for men in the practical karate community. This training is lead by self-protection instructor and Team Builder Dojo founder Jordan Giarratano. This group is limited to 10 men and we expect it to fill quickly.
- Iain will be joining as a participant for this series
- Meets Tuesdays on Zoom from 7/26 - 8/30, 12 - 2 pm (PST, UTC-7), 8 - 10 pm (BST, UTC+1), 9 - 11 pm (CEST, UTC+2)
- Limited to 10 men
- 12 hours of live group practice on Zoom
- 1 year of access to companion online video course (6 weeks of videos and support resources)
- If you need a different currency option for registration or have any questions about the training, please contact Jordan.
Sliding Scale Payment Options
In an effort to make this training both accessible for others and sustainable for myself I offer payment as a sliding scale. Please choose the tier that best matches your needs and situation.
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Curious about this course?
ARE YOU STILL PLAYING THE DOMINANCE GAME?
A Peer Support Team is like a dojo for your feelings
HOW IT WORKS
You know how it is: you get a few guys in a room, we size each other up, try to figure out who's a threat and who is safe. It's exhausting. And alienating.
A Peer Support Team is a powerful way to disrupt this dominance game and create enough safety for us to learn to trust each other.
Just like a martial arts dojo, a Peer Support Team is a structured, low risk space for us to practice new ways of relating to one another.
WHAT TO EXPECT
The Uncrowned is a guided training to discover and unlearn the dominance strategies that block us from connection.
- When your training starts you'll get access to an online course with weekly video updates to support your practice
- We'll meet for a two-hour practice session every week for six weeks.
- Each cohort is unique and limited to twelve men. Who you are and what you bring to each session will shape the experience.
- I'll facilitate group discussions with themes, questions, and prompts that illuminate different aspects of the Dominance game
- You’ll also work one-on-one with other participants to practice new Peer Support skills each week
- I'll provide guided solo practices to help you clarify your values, uncover hidden beliefs, and learn to build supportive relationships.
"Of course it sounds awkward and uncomfortable. As men we have been taught to hide our emotions, act tough, not cry, or show weakness. It takes courage to open up. Sharing what my heart has been carrying always makes my body feel lighter and less tense at the end of the session."
How we co-create the Peer Support Pod experience
STEP ONE: READ THE ROOM AND ESTABLISH TRUST
We've all been that guy at one time or another. The guy that doesn't get it. The guy that says the wrong thing. The guy that kills the vibe.
Social anxiety is no joke. We can reduce that anxiety by defining an intentional space with clear boundaries, agreements, and shared intentions.
Mindfully tracking social context helps us to create spaces safe enough for authentic connection.
You'll learn to...
- Understand the power dynamics that shape groups and relationships
- Know and honor your limits with by setting boundaries
- Cultivate deeper intimacy and trust by making space to hear and say no in your relationships
STEP TWO: LISTEN WITHOUT TRYING TO FIX EACH OTHER
It can be overwhelming to try to offer emotional support, especially if we feel like we don't know what we're doing.
It can be even scarier to receive support! Asking for help challenges our Dominance game programming.
Breaking support down to a teachable system makes it easier to practice.
You'll learn to...
- Build bonds of trust with other men
- Give and receive support with the core practices of deep listening, reflection, and validation
- Reduce your shame with powerful self-compassion practices
STEP THREE: SOAK UP THAT SWEET, SWEET SEROTONIN
Humans are a cooperative species. Connection makes us feel good. Conflict stresses us out.
To stay in connection and navigate conflict we need to be able to understand and share what we're feeling in real time.
It can be really frustrating to not be able to put our experience into words so that we have an opportunity to feel seen and understood.
You'll learn to...
- Share your experience without getting stuck in your head
- Pump the brakes before you overreact and damage trust in your relationships
- Identify and name your feelings and needs
"There are so many other sensitive men in this world, just like me, who feel out of place in the current mainstream culture of masculinity. I always felt like I was the only one, but men have shown up from all different backgrounds longing for a deeper connection with their brothers."
Is this just going to be a bunch of guys talking over each other?
What if I can't make it to all of the sessions?
If I start to feel my feelings will I fall into an abyss I can never escape?
Dude, I quit things. And this looks like work.
How is this different from other groups for men?
My Dad is great. Can I still be in the group?
"Being in the group has helped me to identify when I feel unsafe and allowed me to respond properly to those feelings. Instead of going into fight mode or shutting down, I can identify that I feel threatened, question why, and take the time to make space for myself rather than automatically push back."